Write a paragraph answering the following question:
Do you believe that shaming the children, by parents and teachers, is an appropriate punishment? Justify
Please, use the vocabulary we had last class: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSd0m92-eoHJwdjIRO01OvL8J0C-8H2PA_UlCbnxtCcz2feQuw/viewform
Nouhayla El Aouni says: No one can deny that sometimes children do things that deserve punishment hoping that it won’t be repeated. But do we all know the punishing is not a random reaction, taken at a moment of anger, fury or bitterness ? of course no,some of us think that the right way to punish children is to shame them in public. but is it the right way? Is it the right way to correct them? Is it the right way to teach how to righteous people? The answer is: NO. This has more cons than pros.It can affect negatively their personality. According to some studies, it can drive them to the Autism and self-introversion.
Shaming people in public is an inappropriate way to correct people. In fact, when the children are Shamed by their parents and teachers, they will face plenty of problems when they grow up. In other words, they are going to lose their self confidence and self – esteem. The parents attack their kids’ personality , not their behavior . Hence, they break their hearts and bruise their ego .In brief, Shaming kids can never be a viable solution.
Meysa Bachiri says: “Shamed” without capital letter.
Lack of ponctuation.
She did not deepen the subject.
ADAM AMALLAH says: lot of poncuation
Shamed without capital letter
Youssef Gharafi says: I really appreciated your essay.It was full of vocabulary and without ponctuation or spelling mistakes.You have just to work on writing more and more.
Manal Abbadi says: Hey kenza,
Personally, I think that in general your essay is great. Maybe next time try to make it less shorter by adding some arguments. And it will be better if you finish with a quote.
When it comes to mistakes I think you only have one: « kid’s » not « kids´ »
Great job!
abdellah elouazzani says: good work !
a small mistake :”Shamed” without capital letter.
and try to develop the arguments by giving more exemples
First, I want to thank you for your great paragraph when I was reading it understand your feelings and emotions in verse those kids despite your paragraph was short and you make some mistakes like ” kids’personality, ” instead of kids’ personalities.
Malak Khayati says: Parents think that if they shame their children in public they will correct their mistakes; No!! It is completely wrong, they just attack their character and their personality. I think it is generally a very embarrassing situation with more cons than pros.
Sometimes, when the family gets together, parents start revealing openly their kids wrongdoings. Unconsciously, the parents destroy their kid’s dignity and weaken their confidence.
So , kids should talk to their parents and tell them the truth . They should tell them that this reaction breaks their hearts and hurts them a lot. Also, they should warn them against underestimating their achievements . So please be your kids best friend and try to understand him and avoid disgracing them , it just destroys their personality and kill their feelings. As Marya Montessori says: Children are human beings to whom respect is due, superior to us by reason of their innocence and of the greater possibilities of their future.” , .
Noha says: Hey malak, i would like to congratulate you for your outstanding essay… You wrote it in a really formal way as well as you used a lot of good new vocab. Also, you knew how to evaluate the issue. Some mistakes did attract my attention though, such as when you wrote “the family gets together” it would’ve been better if you used the word “gathers” instead, and aalso the fact that you mentioned “kids” in plural and just after you wrote “try to understand him” and not “them”. Finally, i want to talk about the fact that you think that children should confess to their parents abouut how thtey are hurting them, i certainly disagree. But its none if my business i respect your point of view. Thank you
Chaymae Messaoudi says: Dear Malak,
you have a grammar mistake: it destroys their personality and kills their feelings. Also, you must work more on ponctuation: As Marya Montessori says :”…..”. Generally, it’s a good essay. Hope you will do better next time.
Salma Malki says: hi, dear Malak , Iread your essay and it was really wonderful , but I remarked a few mistakes to correct . For example when you said : “So please be your kids best friend and try to understand him” you should write understand them instead, and please work in ponctuation like ” Chaymae Messaoudi”, and thank you
Aymane Belfadil says: It is beyond a shadow of doubt that shaming the children has been one of the issues that have attracted the interest of people, from all walks of life. some people consider it as an educationel system, but the others disagree with it. I believe that shaming the children has a negative impact on their personality , in fact, the child will be afraid to share his point of view with his parent but he will listen with eyes cast downword , so he will feel the grudge and the animosity towards his parents , and It will become a barrier for a healthy emotional life, furthermer, the child will become
pessimiste and he will sink in a deep ocean of negativity , in addition to this shaming children can guide to the concumption of drugs and following the wrong way,indeed this child think that he will escape from the real world when doing this . And the best example that reflect this situation (shaming children) the drop of water can overflower the vase, so when the parents become more aggressive the child will react in his own way . All in all, the parents must maintain the communication channel with their children.
omnia says: I like how your paragraph very organized, just a few mistakes like:_Educationel ( educational )/_downword (downward)/-futhermer(futhermore) /-pessimiste (pessimistic or pessimist)/-think(thinks :change the verb form) /reflect (reflects: chanching the verb form) .
Douae Ramdani says: I can’t disagree that children and adolescents do some bad stuff , so sometimes they merit to be punished by their parents .
Some parents shame their kids in public , they think that it’s the best solution to stop them but it isn’t ! It’s totally not an appropriate punishment ! Can u imagine the damages that cause because of shaming ? To demean lead to a tear of a little kid , he grows up feeling lonely , unloved , maltreated , sad . This is why some adults now they are not feeling good enough . One bad word can change someone’s life negatively because when a parent underestimates his son , he hurts his son’s feelings , he breaks his heart . However do you know that if you shame a kid you will be the cause of losing his self-esteem , you damage his confidence , YOU ATTACK HIS PERSONALITY , NOT BEHAVIOR !!
So if you are a parent or a teacher or whatever please and please stop shaming kids , you are destroying someone’s life .
Rime El Badaoui says: Douae, I really liked your paragraph but here are some things that I wish you will fix
I beleive that if you wrote I agree that it would be better.
I don’t think that bad stuff is a formal way to write with.
We say that is caused by shaming.
Using qyestions will make your paragraph seem like you used spoken english.
In line 4, you repeated the subject two times, don’t add they.
Don’t use cpital letters when for all the sentence, it feels like you are speaking and yelling at someone.
Don”t say or whatever it feels like you are talking to someone in an informal way and a disrespecting way.
I feel like you used the spoken english a lot.
Aymen El-Ghazi says: I want to let you know that your essay is just fantastic, keep going you’re doing great but unfortunately there are some mistakes I would like to correct.
First of all you used an informal language, it’s preferable to use a formal one for a better essay. For instance: « I can’t agree » u(you),« bad stuff are kind of of spoken.
Secondly, you should consider using linking words more.
Shaming the kids in public is an inappropriate way to correct them.In fact,if the parents shame their kid they will hurt his emotions and they offende him. Also, they bruise his age. In some societies, if a woman leaves her husband, It brings shame on her and her family. In addition to this, she never avecame the shame of having abondoned her children. Added to this when a kid is shaming he lowers his sights and he is under the claud to not be trusted or popular because people think he have done something bad.
Their kids*
will hurt their emotions*
They offend*
She never ovecame*
Added to this , *
When a kid is shamed,*
He is under the cloud*
You have a good TS, for me your STS is not bad; but you don’t have SSTS, because i don’t see any quotes or arguments and the conclusion is not really that good for me.
i hope you do better next time!
Salma haddoudi says: Shaming the kids in public is an inappropriate way to show them their mistakes .In fact, if the parents shame their kid, they will hurt his emotions and they offende him. Also, they will bruise his ego . Added to this , when a kid is shaming he will lower his sights and he
will be under the cloud, he will not be trusted , he will be depressed . because people think he have done something wrong . All in all shaming the kids will never be an appropriate punishment
#OMAR.TS# says: 1_”avecame” i think that you wanted to mean “to overcame shame” it happens some times to click on wrong binds or it is phone corrector and generally it is good.
2_ “when a kid is shaming” we must say a kid is ashamed not shaming it is a small mistake but we must pay attention to it in order not to be bigger.
3_he have* // “he has”
4_Generally it is a good essay.
Safae boutchich says: Shame their kids in public is innapropriate way to correct them. In fact, if the parent shame their kid they will hurt him emotions and they offende him. Also, they brise their age. In some societies, if a woman leaves her husband, it brings shame for her family. In addition to this, she never avecame the shame of having abondoned her children. Added to this when a kid is shaming he lowers his sights and he is under the claud to not be trusted or pupular because people think he have done something bad.
Akram says: The content of you’re paragraph is very good,but there are some small mistaked that you need to correct like:overcame instead of avecame,also we say when a kid is ashamed not a kid is shaming,and for the last one we say cloud,im sure its just a typing mistake.anyway its a very good paragraph
No one can deny that shaming and degrading kids is a big mistake. Most of parents think that demeaning and disgracing their children is the great solution in order to correct their bad behavior. But they are wrong. In point of fact,
the child is a sensitive creature in the development stage. Furthermore,any harm and embarrassement may cause to every kid psychological problems. Added to that,shaming kids makes the child bow his head in shame. Moreover,parents make a grave mistake whem depraving their children because this leads to the isolation of the kid alone,leaving him out of bitter reality. In other word,parents should khow that education is not a weapon aimed at children’s hearts,but rather a wisdom to reach productive kids.
To conclude,parents should punish their children in a way that makes them convinced that what they did is faulty and erroneous. They have to stop shaming them as the quote goes:”The moment we shame our own child,is the moment we teach them that it’s acceptable to build another human being”.
Manal Abbadi says: No one can deny that children’s shaming has been one of the most debatable topics in the recent years. A significant majority of experts agree that it has severe consequences. They infer that some of them are: social and psychological issues.
In fact, education isn’t a piece of cake, many parents and teachers find themselves wondering what on earth they can do to encourage their kids to behave appropriately. Public shaming isn’t the answer, and it could even have the opposite effect as children become isolated and self-involved.
Humiliating children is the same as bullying. It can be devastating for a child’s emotional health.
In addition to this, it doesn’t teach a valuable lesson. A child must feel wanted and protected .He always need a shoulder to lean on.
To conclude, a parent must do everything in order to not lose their kid’s trust. Because trust is what makes a family.
As Heidi Stone said: “ Mock your children as struggle and they will learn to never share their struggles with you.”
Aya Quassaoui says: Nowadays , countless examples of parents shaming their kids publicly went viral online . But the problem is that it never works in the long run as a tool for shaping a kid’s behavior . In point of fact , embarassing children in front of the open , or attempting to do so , has never been an efficient technique to raise your children in a great way . It might seem to work at the very beginning , but little by little , it will quickly backfire . But on the other hand , parents do not intend to do it on purpose , their irresponsible decision is a result of them confusing “shame” with “guilt” , they probably think that their kid might feel guilty after shaming him “publicly” , but that is the complete opposite , guilt says :”I did something bad” , whilst shame says :”I am bad” . According to some researches , shame tends to be a feeling that sticks around , and takes way longer than expected . Consequently , that parent-child relationship will presumably fail , and that kid might end up holding a grudge against his own parents for the rest of his life , or maybe even cutting ties with his entire family , not to mention that his self-esteem will hit rock bottom . So the best tool a parent has at his disposal for influencing his kid’s attitude must be a small talk . He might know what exactly his child did to be treated that way ( in his eyes ) , but one thing he doesn’t know for sure is the reason he did that . Who knows ?? The kid , maybe , was going through a lot by himself , so he thought of that bad deed in particular as a way to relieve stress . The only way to find out is simply by speaking to him . In a nutshell , shaming kids, claiming that they will rethink their wrongdoings , will never be an appropriate punishment .
Aya bensalah says: Shaming people in public is an inappropriate way to correct people. In fact, the children will face lot of problems. It causes children to curtail behavior through negative thoughts and feelings about themselves. It involves a comment direct or indirect about what the child is. Shaming operates by giving children a negative image about their selves rather than about the impact of their behavior. Parents and teachers also believe that the punishment promotes effective child socialization because it teaches the child what no to do. Furtheremore, humiliation doesn’t teach children to respect their parents, but rather to fear and ovoid them. I totally disagree with that idea to shame children in public by parents or teachers, in real children can make mistakes but I don’t think shaming them in front of people is the perfect punishment or solution, they can give them some advices examples and lessons but not embarass them!
Sami hajjaoui says: Shaming people in public is an inappropriate way to correct people. In fact, the children will face lot of problems. It causes children to curtail behavior through negative thoughts and feelings about themselves. It involves a comment direct or indirect about what the child is. Shaming operates by giving children a negative image about their selves rather than about the impact of their behavior. Parents and teachers also believe that the punishment promotes effective child socialization because it teaches the child what no to do. Furtheremore, humiliation doesn’t teach children to respect their parents, but rather to fear and ovoid them. I totally disagree with that idea to shame children in public by parents or teachers, in real children can make mistakes but I don’t think shaming them in front of people is the perfect punishment or solution, they can give them some advices examples and lessons but not embarass them!
Med Zaoui says: Very good, advanced vocabluary, good organization, just few mistakes:
-there isn’t concluding sentence.
-there must be a noun or a gerand after cause.
I really like your paragraph, I was so interessted to finsh it .
There was some small mistakes for example:
avoid not ovoid
advices,examples
…..but I don t think THAT sahming…..
In my opinion , this paragraph is really amazing , you gives lot of ideas , you used a very good vocabularies , I really appreciate your paragraph , for me I don’t find any gramatical mistakes , keep going in this way of righting , just a small mistake , you should make the difference between the way that we speak and the way that we write .
Abir Chebabi says: Shaming people in public is an inappropriate way to correct people. In fact, the children will face lot of problems. It causes children to curtail behavior through negative thoughts and feelings about themselves. It involves a comment direct or indirect about what the child is. Shaming operates by giving children a negative image about themselves rather than about the impact of their behavior. Parents and teachers also believe that the punishment promotes effective child socialization because it teaches the child what no to do. Furthermore, humiliation doesn’t teach children to respect their parents, but rather to fear and avoid them. I totally disagree with that idea to shame children in public by parents or teachers, in reality children can make mistakes but I don’t think shaming them in front of people is the perfect punishment or solution, they can give them some piece of advice,examples and lessons but not embarass them!
Chaima el fehsi says: I actually loved your essay abir, your ideas were so fundamental, I really appreciate them, you are talented and your mind consists of a plenty of great ideas, that’s what I want to tell you, I wish you the best abir.
Aymane Belfadil says: the essay was perfect , I appreciate your work .but don’t forget the supporting of supporting topic sentence.
ghayta houari says: good essay ,good vocabulary but it will be more good if you add some quotes.
I really like your paragraph, you gave very brilliant ideas and you also used advanced vocabularies. there are only a few mistakes to consider:
– there is no concluding sentence.
– avoid not ovoid
– themselves not their selves
keep going . Excellent work
Aya Souidi says: No one can deny that shaming children is inapprepriate punishment. In point of fact, humiliation happens in all families. It manages behavior by persuading kids to feel bad about themselves. Nevertheless, it leads to plethora of consequences. When kids feel shame, they focus on who they are (naughty?disappointing?), rather than what they have done. Equally important, it fails to teach empathy. According to some reseaches, children who are more likely to feel disgrace have less capacity to feel empathy toward others. Moreover, in refence to Karly McBride, when kids are emotionnally or psychologically abused, normal development is interrupted and it sends the wounded child into exile. This is why we have so many adults today feeling “not good enough”. Last but not least, all kids do things that leave their parents or teachers angry and frustrated. However, they react for a reason. Hence, try to understand the need they are trying to meet through their behavior. Show them that you can be a strong, steady, comforting presence for them, and most importantly, trach them a better way to respond. Overall, to demean children is a wrong way to discipline them.
Mohammed Sennane. says: It has been irrefutably proven that shaming the kids has been one of the most striking issues in the recent years. Not only educators but even sociologists agree that humiliating them has a harmful consequences. They infer some of them is losing their personality.
Disgracing the childrens is inappropriate punishment. In point of fact, all we’re humans and we all make mistakes, and from those mistakes we learn an other lesson. Furthermore, shaming kids can have a bad impact on their personality, they become bashful and they can’t express them self in the society .Therefore, it create on them some psychologicals issues that can destroy their life . That’s why the right way to punish the childrens is buy feeling some responsibility and to be aware about theirs acts .In brief, dishonoring kids isn’t a solution to change them.
To conclude, the key to make every child aware about his actions, is to improve the communication between family , and like Anne Frank :” Parents can only give good advice or put them on the right paths, but the final forming of a person’s character lies in their own hands”.
Saddik Nizar says: No one can deny that shaming the kids has become one of the most debatable issues nowadays. In fact, it is a very touchable subject. To clarify, children around the world are suffering from this very bad behavior due to a certain misunderstanding from parents or teachers. But the question is: Have they chosen the perfect solution by disgracing them?
Obviously not, because when humiliating someone. You reduce his confidence. You can cause him some psychological problems, so as a consequence, the normal development gets interrupted and it sends the wounded child into exile. This is why many adults are feeling not good enough in their social life. In addition to that, you increase the person’s hatred towards you. In the other hand, while parents and teachers are depraving a kid, they are just correcting a mistake with another mistake because that was their responsibility. Last but not list, kids leave their teachers and parents angry. However, that is human nature. We all learn from our mistakes and life experiences. Nevertheless, try to understand their situation. But I do believe that dialogue is the best solution. To conclude, humiliation is never a good choice to correct someone’s behavior.
Amimar Douae says: No one can doubt that shaming the kids in public is an inappropriate punishment. In point of fact,shaming kids in public has host of impacts on the kid’s personality. He grows up feeling not only unloved but also unwanted and even fearful, and it becomes a barrier for a healthy emotional life. In addition to that, by demeaning a kid in order to correct his behavior, we attack his personality with no insight into the damage it causes “When a child is punished or shamed by their parent, it can inadvertently attack the child’s personality and not the behavior the parent is attempting to reprimand. Instead of making the child understand that what they’ve done is wrong, shaming can actually make them feel like there’s something wrong with whom they are.”(http://www.vbpsychology.com/the-dark-side-of-public-shaming-parenting/). To conclude shaming kids is distraction of their personality.
Amimar Douae says: *No one can deny that shaming kids
Salma Malki says: It is indubitable that shaming kids by parents and teacher in public is one of the issues that shift the interest of people from all age groups.
Humiliating children is a worst way to punish or correct their mistakes. In fact , this method of treating a kid cause psychologically abused, so this young person will feel sad, unvolved , unwanted…..
Moreover, it destroys his personality , he will lose his self-confident…….
In brief , I agree that sometimes kids do mistakes and make problems and they must be punished by their parents. However, shaming them still the horrible way to correct them.
Ouissale Ben-yadi says: undebatable*
the worst *
to punish them*
psychological abuse*
it destroys his personality and his self confidence*
Nouhayla El Aouni says: I just want to say that your paragraph is just wonderful , with no mistakes, what i mean with no mistakes is you know very well writing an essay and also your paragraph was full of great vocabulary .
interesting work keep doing it 🙂
Mohammed Elguerrouj says: Your paragraph was great but there is some small mistakes that you need to work on
‘the worst’ not ‘a worst’
‘self-confidence’ not ‘self-confident-
‘involved’ not ‘unvolved’
‘a horrible’ not ‘the horrible’
Lina Oumharch ^.^ =) says: It is beyond all shadow of doubt that shaming kids has been one of the most common ways to punish them and change their behavior. Nevertheless, it stays controversial because some people agree on it while other disagree. Personally, i am totally against this method. It is undeniable that sometimes kids can act or behave badly and deserve a punishment from their parents or teachers, however those later should not deprave them at any cost specially in public because it may have long knock term effects on the child. Actually, experts say that any punishment that shames or embarrasses a child is not an effective way to discipline youngsters, and may cause long-term psychological damage ,such punishments can lead to “all kinds of problems in the future,” including increased anxiety, depression and aggression. Beside this, malicious punishments can also damage a parent’s relationship with their child, and lead to a cycle of bad behavior. Humiliating punishments can also disconnect parents from their children, making kids less likely to want to behave and do what their parents say, said Katharine Kersey, a professor of early childhood education at Old Dominion University in Norfolk. In fact, when parents disconnect from a child, he no longer wants to please them, he no longer wants to be like them so, they’ve lost their power of influence over him. Also kids will not feel loved and affected by their parents, they will lose their trust and confidence on their family, consequently they will not share their problems and weaknesses with their parents and keep them for themselves witch can develop and lead to new problems, and the worst is that they can feel that their parents hate them so they will hate them too. The most serious and long-term problem is that those disgraced kids will treat their own children in the same way they was treated, and they will always feel complex and “not good enough”. Instead, parents can punish their kids in other ways like establishing rules that kids can follow and being reasonable in the expectations, listening to the kids and taking away privileges like watching TV and playing video games. All in all, humiliating punishments don’t work to discipline children, and may have long-term consequences, and as Grogan-Kaylor said: “positive things have a much more powerful effect on shaping behavior than any punishment”.
Naji Oumharch :) says: A lot of parents shame their kids in order to punish them. In fact, i disagree with this idea. If the parents shame and degrade the kids, they hurt their emotions, they offend them, they bruise their ego and break their hearts so the kids lose their self esteem the thing that can make them more aggressive. In addition to this, the relation between the parents and the children will be bad, the kids will not listen to their parents and can even start hating them. I think that there are other ways to punish bad kids like depriving them from things they like or speaking with them calmly. Finally, shaming kids as a punishment is the wrong approach to discipline, in the opposite, parents must understand their kids and listen to their problems and keep their secrets, not use them against them in public, and as Heid Stone said:”mock your children as they struggle, and they will learn to never share their struggles with you”.
nour el houda boujemaoui says: Great Naji .I loved your work
few things to consider :The topic sentence should be short to atract the leader ;to know more about it ,check the following link:: https://docs.google.com/document/d/15bfO5g_Cy_GcjSllqPNf_lerncYZXaKi98eRMsJ3SqQ/edit?usp=sharing
Add to this, the concluding sentence is repeating the topic sentence with another vocab ,avoid “quotes ”
Good luck
zayneb ibrahimi says: Hey naji ! First of all i really appreciate your work , it’s very organized I congratulate you ! But they are still some mistakes that i noticed , very small ones such as : “In fact, i disagree with this idea.” I don’t think that we put our opinion after in fact , “the kids” We don’t say the kids we say either their kids or kids , “speaking with them” In my opinion in this case we use talking to them that is better. And that’s all ! Keep going you are doing an amazing work . BEST LUCK LEADER
Ayyoub bouazizi says: Children are the hope for the future, however,they sometimes commit heinous acts.
Parents are responsible for their children,so they have to react to their acts, nevertheless,the punishment should be based on the age of the kid. Let’s imagine that the mom or the dad is punishing her or his kid by shaming him in public,I think that’s not the answer,in fact, this will increase the enmity in the relationship between the parents and the kid. Parents should punish the act, not the kid. My suggestion is punish the kid without publishing it,like taking his phone for one week,or his PlayStation or Xbox….
The relation between the parents and their kid is the reason of the child’s acts in the future. If you treat him good, then he’s good .If you treat him bad , you will not like it .
Younes dsg says: It’s a very good essay , but i found that the essay is not reach of linking words and enven the concluding sentense was not that good so you can just change it whith “the kids are the greatest think that the parents have so they must educate them in a good way”
In general it was great.
Rayan Mokhtari says: Children are the hope for the future, however, they sometimes commit heinous acts.
Parents are responsible for their children, so they have to react to their acts, nevertheless, the punishment should be based on the age of the kid. Let’s imagine that the mom or the dad is punishing their kid by shaming him in public, I believe that is not the answer. In fact, this will increase the enmity in the relationship between the parents and the kid. Parents should punish the act, not the kid. My suggestion is to punish the kid without publicizing it, for example: taking his phone for one week, or his game consoles, and so forth…
The relation between the parents and their kid is the result of the child’s acts in the future. If you treat him well, then expect the same on your end. If you treat him badly, you will not like it.
I have corrected certain punctuation, grammar, and vocabulary mistakes for you, Mr. Ayoub. I believe you have committed some mistakes. However, the message was delivered.
Well done!
Salma haddoudi says: shaming kids in the puplic has ripple effects on the child personality .
In fact, When a child is punished or shamed by their parent, it can inadvertently attack the child’s personality and not the behaviour the parent is attempting to reprimand. Instead of making the child understand that what they’ve done is wrong, shaming can actually make them feel like there’s something wrong with who they . The child will be under the cloud.
In fact, shame is the worst consequence of emotional abuse . Punishment does not teach a child what they should do; it simply teaches them that they are bad. And to conclude , shaming kids will never be an appropriate punishment .
Yasmine halfi says: Very good use of the vocabulary, and a well organized paragraph. But I think you should work more on your punctuation; put a capital letter at the beginning of a sentence, use small letter after a comma… I also spotted a small mistake, you should keep in mind that; child is singular, while children is used for the plural.
PS: I think you meant, “in addition to this…”, not “in fact” in the last paragraph.
But good essay in general, and I am sure the future essays will be even better. 🙂
Lina Oumharch :) says: Hello Salma, firstly i want to thank you for the great efforts you applied when writing your paragraph, it was wonderful. However, i found some few mistakes that you should work on in the future. I believe that you have a problem with the capitalization ( shaming kids, In fact When ), there are also some spelling mistakes (puplic, behaviour). Beside this, we never start a sentence with and (And to conclude), and finally, i think you didn’t use a lot of arguments such us quotes and facts. Nevertheless, your paragraph is amazing and i truly like it. 🙂 😉
It is beyond a shadow of doubt that shaming the children has been one of the issues that have attracted the interest of people, from all walks of life. Some people consider it as an educationel system, but the others disagree with it. I believe that shaming the children destroy their personality . In fact , when the kids do something wrong , their parents want to do something to punish them , but the kids feel shame and ignominy . So they do not want to share their opinion with their parents . In this way the kids will be pessimiste and feel humiliation and disgrace . In addition to this , the kids think that their parents want to degrade them and dishonor . The kids in the street bow their heads , their parents brings shame on them . When the people look this kids , they will be under the cloud and maybe go in the bad way of drugs and forget the real world . For example , the video that we saw in the class , we see people that agree and some that disagree with this punishment . Moreover , we can solve this problem without shaming kids and lead them to the wrong way . So the solution is that the parents must educate their kids so they will not do this bad acts or rewarding them when they do something good and evitating the punishment . To conclude , kids are the future generations , if we didn’t treat them well they will be destroyed , so we must educate them well to be the best .
Lilia Halfi says: I don’t believe that shaming the children, by parents and teachers, is an appropriate punishment, and if they punish them , they are going to loose there self confidence and self esteem, and if they ashamed them every one is going to trite them in a bad way like the other person did it and kids who have been ashamed ,never goingto be treated in a good way because they have being ashamed by an other person but that’s not the solution to punish them . Parents must want all good things for there children they don’t have to ashamed them . The main solution is to make them understand their mistakes because they will never understand.
hajar bouayadi says: ashamed*
Othmane douzi says: Lilia it is a good paragraph, but there is some things to add and to modify in case to become a exelent paragraph in tearm of reading and content.
So Lilia, your write the paragraph in a speaking way, in other words, you wrote oral words.
And also, you must use linking words to connect sentences in case to make the paragraph more beautiful.
Also, you must use new vocabulary in case to make it b1 paragraph.
As a conclusion, you did great work but next time be concentrated on this.
BEST YOUNG LEADER
romaysae chaouch says: the are going to lose *
and the kids *
another *
there is better way to say this sentence ” Parents must want all good things for there children they don’t have to ashamed them”
first of amm there is one mistakes and it is “their” not “there” and you have to change the sentence to ” Parents must do all the good things to their children they don’t have to ashamed them”
to be honest the paragraph is pretty good you should just work more with your grammar
Aya Quassaoui says: I really like your essay , it is pretty obvious that you put so much effort in it . But i think , and it’s still an opinion, that it would have been better if you started your essay with a more “formal” TS . And i see that you wrote lose with double Os , it’s not a serious mistake , but i think you should fix it before you get used to writing that way , for more details , you can check out this website”https://www.grammarly.com/blog/loose-lose/” There are also some small tiny words you didn’t write properly , but i see that our friends already noticed them . Other than this , everything else was pretty much great . I wish you the best : ) .
Roumaissae Melhaoui says: Hi Lilia !
Well, your essay is pretty good , you just have to work more on the grammar and punctuation mistakes (their not there..) and try to avoid long sentences and repetition.
Good luck
Aya yousfi says: Imagine a world where all parents listen to their children’s problems and if they make a mistake, they punish them in a wonderful way where they are not emotionally abused. In fact, this is a great idea because children will not be afraid to tell their parents what they have done, nor will they be forced to lie to them. Listening to your daughter or your son is not a crime, on the contrary, you help them to never hide anything from you. It is normal for your children to be mistaken because we are not perfect. Listen to your kids when they want to talk, don’t let them tell someone else their problems. I also speak to teachers if you have seen a bad thing about a student talking to him / her alone, not in front of the students. The student will try to change and not to hurt again. He will change his behavior and do his best for you and see them as a good student, certainly if you knew how to criticize and advise him. As the quote says: “If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn. If he lives in hostility, he learns to fight. If a child lives in shame, he learns to be ashamed”.
Shaming the kids is inappropriate punishement.In fact, they lose their personnality.The parents don’t know what will happen to their kids.I don’t think shaming the kids is good for their self because when they grow they will not have self confident and they don’t believe that they are like the normal person.In addition to this,they will think that the people laugh on them.Last but not least,the people make fun of them.In brief,I want to say to the parents don’t shame your kids.
Roa Kajout says: * loose
#Rooa: There si a difference between: lose and loose. Please, check the dictionary to find the difference
Correction :/(….)\
Shaming the kids is inappropriate /(punishment.)\ In fact, they lose their /(personality. )\/(The)\ parents don’t know what will happen to their kids/(.)\ I don’t think shaming the kids is good for their self because when they grow they will not have self/( confidence )\ and and they don’t believe that they are like the normal person/(.)\ In addition to this/(,)\ they will think that the people laugh on them/(.)\ Last but not least/(, )\the people make fun of them/(.)\ In brief/(,)\ I want to say to the parents don’t shame your kids.
Zakaria Heyouni says: I loved your paragraph. I think that it was better if you said *self confident.
Roa Kajout says: * self-confident
Shaming the kids is inappropriate punishment. In a matter of fact, when the children will feel a drench of shame,they will not believing them self and they will lose their potential and their personalities. Furthermore, the shaming and the humiliation does a lot of negative things such as: all the kids who are shamed, when they grow up, they will feel like unloved and they will think that they are loosers . Last but not least, the main solution that i propose is that we must be more quiet, we must discuss with them smoothly, and we must cheer them instead of dipriving them or maltreating them phisically and by word. In brief, the parents must not humiliate their kids because actually it’s he worst solution.
MOHAMMED AMRI says: Firsteval I just want to thanj you for your great effort.but there is some things that need to be corrected in your paragraph for example:
*”In fact this behavior underestimate them and devastate their self-confidence and also their personality”.
*” actually the parents don’t know what are the consequenses of shaming the children”.
* ” honestly i don’t think shaming kids is good for their future , because they will struggle to engage in the society and to trust people.”.
*”in addition to that the kid will be an object to mock at , he will be assailed ”
*.I want say that the concluding sentence must be as the topic sentence but in a different way and you must support your supporting sentence by using a quote or statistiques to confirm your idea.Here is a video that you can use to know more about orginazing a pragraph:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NLzKqujmdGk.
*another thing is that you repeated “people laugh on them” twice .
*avoid long sentences and if you do at least use punctuation .
*your message was delivered but it needs some explanation and details.
* Beside all that you did a wonderful work .
good luck
Ghassane Oumharch says: Some parents and teachers believe that shaming kids and humiliating them is an appropriate punishment. In my opinion, i don’t think that demeaning the kids by their parents is a bad way of education, because they will damage themselves, they will break their heart, and the kids will lose their self esteem, some kids can even hate their parents and teachers. I think that the parents and the teachers must change their way of treating their kids and understand their struggles instead of using them to shame them.
Wissal Raguigue says: First of all, thank you Ghassane for your remarkable efforts, and your great point of view, but I do believe that if you explain your idea more and supporting her by some research or statistics, it will be better.
Personally, I think that if you change the introduction by an other one it will attract the readers attention .
I wish you take my opinion on consideration .
Nizar Saddik says: Thank you Ghassane for your great efforts. But I believe that you should work more on:
-Paragraph organization: Topic sentence, Supporting topic sentence, supporting of the supporting sentence, concluding sentence.
Zakariya serraji says: Thank you Ghassane for your beautiful essay but i think that you need to work more on organization. Topic sentence, S.T, S.S.T and conclusion.
I see that you gave us your opinion in the S.T which is the wrong place. In the S.T, you should develop the topic sentence.
Lina Tajer says: Firstly,i should congrat you for this great essayYou clearly expressed your opinion, but i do believe that it would have been even better if you used some links or statistics or exemples of situations in order to assure it. Also, i would advise you to organize your paragraphs to separate your ideas and not making it look like one.
Abdellah Boubker says: Thank you Ghassane . First , as said Nizar ,you have to chek your paragraphe organisation . Another point , i advice you to use more linking words go make it better.
Yasmine halfi says: It is beyond a shadow of doubt that shaming the children has been one of the issues that have attracted the interest of people, from all walks of life. And the most common question related to this subject is whether it is the right or wrong way to punish a children’s wrong behavior. Personally, I am convinced that shaming the children, by parents or teachers, is an inappropriate punishment and should not even be considered as an option. As a matter of fact, shaming kids publically will sooner or later affect their mental health, either by creating insecurities, developing anxiety or depression or by making them lose their self esteem… It is true that kids and teenagers commit a lot of mistakes, but by bruising their ego like this, parents will not only lose their children’s trust, but also destroy their personality unconsciously, while their original goal was to fix their attitude. So I suggest that the parents COMMUNICATE with their children, UNDERSTAND why they did that, and help them fix the problem, or explain that what they did is wrong. And I can assure you that in most of cases this method will give better results than embarrassing them. As the quote goes on: “If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn. If he lives in hostility, he learns to fight. If a child lives in shame, he learns to be ashamed”.
Mohammed Elguerrouj says: No one can deny that shaming the kids in public has gone viral in social media. Some parents think that shaming a kid in the public, regardless of the consequences for their kids, is a great solution to change their behaviors. In point of fact, Embarrassing children in front of the open, or attempting to do, has never been an efficient technique to raise your children. According to some research, “shaming and humiliating children is emotionally abusive. It is not okay to smack children physically or with words. When children are emotionally or psychologically abused, they grow up feeling unloved, unwanted, and fearful”. In addition to that, Shaming Children Is Emotionally Abusive. When you humiliate someone in the open, you lower your sights and you put him under the cloud. Consequently, the ‘parent-child’ relationship will probably fail, and that kid might end up holding some hate for his parents. Last but not least, we all learn from our mistakes and life experiences. However, instead of shaming your child try to have a talk with him and try to understand the reason(s) that pushes him through that way. To conclude, shaming kids in public will never be an appropriate punishment.
Bayane Bouziane. says: As young kids, we tend to make an avalanche of mistakes searching for knowledge and truth. Parents and teachers are the only ones who assist us, teach us and make us learn right from wrong, whether by communicating or punishing. Though the graver the mistake is, the more intense the discussion and punishment are. Nowadays, parents from harsh backgrounds and strict principles use public shaming to teach their kids a life lesson thinking that it is an innovative method to discipline. Shaming and humiliating children are emotionally abusive. It affects them psychologically and creates barriers for health and emotional life. In addition to this, it might affect their behavior negatively as kids, as adults, and as parents, for example, thinking bullying is acceptable. Psychologists and parenting experts frown on public shaming, some even likening it to adult bullying. “Discipline is supposed to correct behavior and set boundaries so that the children can then learn how to regulate themselves and make good decisions when their parents aren’t around. You teach them what they’re supposed to do so they can make the right decisions on their own,” said Satira Streeter ( The root). Such punishments and acts are considered immature and destructive. All in all, public shaming isn’t the solution to fix mistakes, whether they are superficial or fatal.
Chaymae Messaoudi says: Obviously no one would disagree that parents shaming their kids is a drawback method of parenting. In point of fact, emotional abuse is a crushing, scarring , disastrous experience for the child. Therefore, the parent must try changing their children’s behavior and not touching their personality since shaming kids can developps self-concept and tears down trust, self-esteem and long-term relationship. Consequently, the kid lowers his sights and feels under the cloud. Moreover, the sign of a great parenting is not the child’s behavior. The sign of a great parenting is the parent’s behavior. On the one hand, physical punishment may seem for some parents effective. But on the other hand, it becomes less effective with time and can cause the child to behave agressively. On the contrary, disgracing kids will quickly backfire. Ideally, parents wants to create a bond that reinforces their kids positive sens of who they are. So, when your kid disobey you, have a conversation about their choices and what is the right thing to do next time because children will listen to you after they feel listened to. Spend more time with them to know what they’re thinking of, and what are the problem they’re facing? As they say :” To be in your children’s memories tomorrow, you have to be in their lives today”. However, if the child doesn’t want to change his behavior, then you’re going to think of another way of managing it by precluding him from the things he loves ( toys, mobile phone… ) or debarring him from leaving his room until he thought carefully about what he had done. last but not least, as a quote said:” the words with which a child’s heart is poisoned, whether through malice or through ignorance, reamain branded in his memory and sooner or later they burn his soul”. All in all, shaming kids is not the valid solution to show them the right path to go.
No can deny that shaming kids is emotionally abusive. In fact , shaming kids isn’t effective discipline because those parents are taking what should be private conversation about behavior and making it public by sharing it with friends , family , or the world at large. In other words , a lot of parents shame their kids because they believe this will actually help them to achieve what they have in mind such as teaching them something and controlling their behavior and also because they have seen others do it and they don’t know the dangerous consequences of this strategy .Shaming and blaming your kids isn’t going to make them change. Unfortunately, shaming your kids will damage two things that the parents are working very hard to create and those things are your child’s self-esteem and your long-term relationship because it makes your kids feel bad about themselves and when children are emotionally or psychologically abused, they grow up feeling unloved, unwanted, and fearful. If you want to influence your kids behavior without shaming, the very best tool you have at your disposal is your relationship with your kids .so shaming may make children feel like they cannot change. Rather than motivating them, it may make them feel like they aren’t capable that’s why teaching our children to control themselves is far more effective than trying to shame and control our children. So model and don’t manipulate , lead and don’t intimidate , support and don’t shame , encourage and don’t threaten, guide and don’t punish and also listen don’t lecture.
Finally,” shaming is a soul eating emotions”-carl jung
Nada Lembarki says: A good paragraph Lamyae, you just forgot “one” after “no”. And an before “effective”. Such a good essay though.
Doha Abdoussi says: Shaming the kids in public is an inappropriate way to correct their wrongdoings. In fact, shaming and humiliating the children is emotionally abusive. Most of the parents say that our child did not respect us and they allow themselves to do everything they want even if it is wrong. So, they degrade their kids in public, not thinking about the consequences of what they have done. And as a result, the child suffer from severe problems all his life. The parents destroy their children’s self-confidence and weaken their dignity. Hence, it models a huge lack empathy, respect and maturity. For this reason, the children should talk to their parents and share with them their feelings because maybe this way their parents will understand that they are attacking their personality not behaviour.
In brief, underestimating the kids is never the way to correct their mistakes.
Ayyoub bouazizi says: Wonderful vocabulary and great linking words, very good punctuation. In general, the essay was fantastic but, I think if you add some emojis at the end of a sentence, it will be great. Other than that, you are excellent.
Keep up the good work
Bayane Bouziane. says: Here’s a corrected version of your paragraph:
Shaming the kids in public is an inappropriate way to correct their wrongdoings. Shaming and humiliating are emotionally abusive. Most of the parents say that our children did not respect us, and they allow themselves to do everything they want, even if it is wrong. So, they degrade their kids in public, without thinking about the consequences of what they have done. As a result, the child suffers from lifelong, severe problems. In addition to this, The parents destroy their children’s self-confidence and weaken their dignity. Hence, it models a huge lack of empathy, respect, and maturity. For this reason, the children should talk to their parents and share with them their feelings. This way, their parents will understand that they are deteriorating their personality, not their unacceptable behavior. In brief, depraving kids won’t correct their mistakes.
First of all, I would like to thank you for your paragraph. It doesn’t contain many mistakes. Your paragraph and the way you organized your interesting ideas are impressive. You have very few punctuation mistakes, one spelling mistake (behavior), and a lack of linking words. Added to this, I think that you should make your concluding sentence simple and concise. To conclude, your essay was very engaging and entertaining.
Amina El hebil says: It is undeniable that shaming the kids has been one of the most sensitive topics in the recent decades. Many psycologists and sociologists agree unanimously that shaming the kids impacts negatively on their behavior. In point of fact, parents aren’t aware of the consequences of depraving kids and puting them to shame. In other words, it is mandatory to have a stronge relationship between parents and kids, in order to avoid these misunderstandings and mistakes, that push them to disgrace their kids. Nevertheless, even in schools students are subjected to a tough ignominy, which is definitely wrong and inappropriate. To illustrate, students will bow their head in shame and will not be able to continue their studies normally, and they may refrain from going to school. Thereby, kids are not only sensitive but also in a period of building their personality and learning through experiences. Shaming kids is also dangerous because shame tends to be a feeling that sticks around, and it often lasts longer than you realize or intend So, it is not an effective solution for punishment. Even though, they commit some unacceptable mistakes, parents should listen to them and teach them lessons and epiphanies, in order to enlighten the true deeds that they must consider. Thereupon, with the reference to several articles, experts assert that a certain strategie, will help parents to strengthen the communication method with the kids:The very best tool you have at your disposal for influencing your kids’ behavior is your relationship. Ideally, you want to create a bond that reinforces your kids’ positive sense of who they are, while also giving them room to learn from their mistakes. So when your kids choose to disobey you, have a conversation about their choices and what they can do differently next time.But also, Help your child identify the feelings associated with the events that took place, These may include anger, fear, loneliness, surprise, and others.In bref, as far as our culture of humiliation goes, what we need is revolution in terms of education.
hafsa KHLIFI says: No one can deny that parents make a big mistake when they shame there child.
Actually we see people that agree and some other disagree with punishment . Moreover , we can resolve this problem without shaming but parents must be vigilant to lead their kids. So the solution is that the parents should educate their kids and lead them to the best way without violence because it has a bad effectuationon on psychology of kids.
In addition to this ,kids think that their parents want to demean them and dishonor . The kids in the street bow their heads , their parents adduce shame on them. so the parents must maintain the communication channel with their children besides they should care about happiness of their kids for exemple : to accept fees and requests, but without exaggeration.
Of course kids face lot of obstacles ,maybe they need someone to ask him, so this person must be parents , they should be present in all problems of their chidren because a child must feel wanted and protected.He always need a shoulder to lean on.
To conclude, a parent must do the possible in order to not lose their kid’s trust. Because trust and confidence is what build a happy family.
Shame is designed to cause children to curtail behavior through negative thought and feeling about themselves. It involves a comment about what child is. Shaming operates by giving children a negative image about their selves rather than about the impact of their behavior.
The takeaway here is that parents who choose to humiliate their kids as a form of punishment are really setting up their kids for potentially dangerous behavior patterns as they get older. Humiliating doesn’t teach children to respect their parents, but rather to fear and avoid them. Shaming by teachers or parents isn’t a punishment, this can affect the child’s psyche, and they should not shame the kids If they did sth wrong, they should advise them and we’re humans, we all make mistakes.
Amina el hebil says: Great language, but your essay would be better if you consider the following remarks:
*short ,concise topic sentence
*add some linking words
*support with arguments,or exemples,or even solutions
*their selves , it is themselves
Apart from that , the paragragh will be more organized.
Amimar Douae says: Great work Sara I really like the way your essay is done.I loved the way you connect between the sentences just have a little Remarque “their selves” we say “themselves” . All in all, your essay is just amazing. Keep going like that .
Fighting ^_^
Great essay I really like it but I think that you made a mistake witch is:
“Their selves” we say” themselves”.
Overall it’s a good essay .
Khalil Margoum says: In general your essay is pretty good, well-delivered ideas and thoughts. However , you have to work more on these notes .
-your topic sentence must be shorter and precise.
– Including more linking works.
. So , good luck in your further essay.
Nour EL Houda Boujemaoui says: It is incontestable that shamming kids has been one of the most debatable issues in recent decades. The overwhelming majority of sociologists and psychologists emphasize that its causes are many. They infer that some of them are: social or psychological issues which it impacts on them a lot specially as an innocent kid. In a matter of fact, educating kids cost money, it doesn’t come over a night; it begins the moment we see children as innately wise and capable beings. So from that moment, parents should start teaching their kids how to behave because children are great imitators. Unfortunately, some of them deprave their kids in front of the open believing that is the best way to never forget those mistakes committing by children .Moreover, they are trying to educated their kids as their parents educated them. Honestly, it’s never a good parenting strategy since our generation differs totally from the other one. Hence, the child will feel himself growing in a savage society full of criminals and naysayers .Thereby, Shaming may make children feel bad about themselves. When the people you love the most, whose opinion matters the most; whose you always trusted and felt comfortable with them say bad things about you, blame you or put shame on you, it can be more than hurtful. Consequently, it can affect his self-esteem in ways that can become ingrained and permanent because a kid is still sensitive, he can’t control his self since he‘s still on a period of building his personality and also trying to exclude himself in order to accept his environment .Add to this, It’s Really Bad For Your Child’s Emotional Health; Carl said that public shaming kids is a soul eating emotion because It doesn’t stay linked to one incident, instead it leaches out and colours how we see ourselves as individuals, it teaches your child how that he is bad, not that he did bad thing. Feelings of shame have been linked with depression and addiction, and encourage feelings of self-worthlessness.( https://www.bellybelly.com.au/parenting/10-reasons-why-you-shouldnt-publicly-shame-kids/). A psychologist doctor said in her speech that Children are also humans and have the right to be treated respectfully since Discipline doesn’t include raging, screaming, abusing, neglecting, humiliating, or shaming our kids, That sort of discipline never produces a harvest of righteousness and peace. He cannot even trust his parents or teachers which it becomes a serious catastrophe nowadays which since has made more headlines. In other words ,”Mock your children as they struggle and they will never share their struggles with you “.studies suggest that the right sort of praise — cheering on a child’s efforts, strategies, or good deeds — can inspire kids to keep striving .Also, it helps children as a possible to get out of their bubbles ,changing their behaviors and learning from their mistakes successfully. All in all , public shaming kids is not and it will never be a valid solution for education..
Doha Abdoussi’s essay:
Shaming the kids in public is an inappropriate way to correct their wrongdoings. In fact, shaming and humiliating the children is emotionally abusive. Most of the parents say that our child did not respect us and they allow themselves to do everything they want even if it is wrong. So, they degrade their kids in public, not thinking about the consequences of what they have done. And as a result, the child suffer from severe problems all his life. The parents destroy their children’s self-confidence and weaken their dignity. Hence, it models a huge lack of empathy, respect and maturity. As a solution, the children should talk to their parents and share with them their feelings because maybe this way their parents will understand that they are attacking their personality not behaviour.
In brief, underestimating the kids is never the way to correct their mistakes.
yasmine kaddani says: It is irrefutable that shaming the kids has been one of the debatable issues nowdays. In point of fact , lot of people think that it is a good way to discipline the kids . Moreover , it is not wrong to discipline the childs , but just don’t over do it . As some one’s says “punish the behavior not the childs “. In addition to this, when kids are punished in such humilliating way, they feel that they are unloved and unwanted. However, their parents bring shame on them. Last but not least, the goal of early childhood education should be to activate the child’s own natural desire to them.
Nada housni says: The children *
Mohammed Sennane. says: Thanks for your effort , but you made some mistakes:
Correction:
+ (punishement ) : punishment.
+( personnality ) : personality.
+ ( self confident) : self confidence.
Youssef Azimani says: I think that it’s a wrong punishment because it gonna destroy his confident and he will be shy .the people agree that it’s wrong with the girl but with the boy it’s the opposite. I think because the majority of girls don’t repeat but for me it’s the same.
In my opinion shaming kids is not a good punishment, first because the kid can be shocked and fill bad cause they are laughing at him, but the other kids will probably reject him that why the parents and the teacher must familiar punishment like deprive him of his dessert or video game and the teachers can give him more home works in addition to this when the kids are filling humiliated they become more aggressive and in some cases they can loose his personality and become another person he can also change to a depressive person and loose all his capacities in communication or in his studies.
Douaae habib says: It’s a disturbing new trend that appears to be on the rise ; “Parents filming themselves shaming their children and then posting those videos online ” .
In fact, while watching these videos , we can obviously see that the kids are bummed out, down in the dumps , with their long faces , bursting into tears while feeling heartbroken and grieved. They are suffering indignity of being exposed to scorn and derision .
Unfortunately , for a lot of parents discipline takes the form of publicly shaming and humiliating their kids , dear parents, this is not discipline, what you are doing is called : Child ABUSE . At minimum, these punishments are enough to crush a child’s self-esteem, and tear down their trust in the people who should love them the most. Apart from this , let’s get something straight, humiliation does not teach kids anything valuable, it only serves to teach a person that they do not matter , that when they make a mistake or fall short some way, they will be put on display for public consumption and criticism , that they will be cut down and devalued . As a consequence, they will think that the reason not to steal , lie, or hurt people , is not because of how it affects others , but because of the consequences they , themselves, will face if they’re caught. Furthermore, shaming does not teach children to respect thair parents , but rather to fear and avoid them.
However, if you already brought shame on your child with punishing him this way, your kid will need to hear you apologize and you need to communicate clearly and promise that this won’t happen again. In addition to this try to hear your child out . You should know that disciplining, as opposed to punishing, is all about training ; it’s the idea that you want to guide, instruct,inform, and teach your children HOW to behave instead of punishing them for misbehaving. In the other hand , your kids need attention , plain and simple. When you fill your children’s “attention baskets” positively and proactively, they will become more cooperative and less likely to seek out attention in negative ways. Be encouraging when your kids make the right choices . Lastly you should set limits and stick to them, this does not mean you need to go overboard with hundreds of rules, but focus on what is most important. Be clear about the ground rules and what happens when someone breaks them.
To sum up , do not let yourself become concerned with raising a good kid , that you forget you already have one , because at the end of the day the most overwhelming key to child’s success is the positive involvement of the parents .
Douaae habib says: their**** parents .
Aya Habib says: Sometimes children truly cannot change what is being shamed. Not everyone is a star student or athlete, we all make mistakes despite our best efforts, and some children are more sensitive or introverted than others. And also, why this parents will post some videos on the social medias, they think that hey will be popular by shaming their kids.
Chaima el fehsi says: “You’re such a bad girl”, “You’re just like your mother (or father)”. “I didn’t know why I even bother with you”. These sentences can break and shatter a kid’s heart into millions of pieces; being selfish that much, this is what we call high level animosity! You see, there are a plenty of things to say, So my friends calm down!
Nowadays, in the 21 century, we are going through big changes, whether positive or negative, we can still spot some very risky issues that we could not deal with yet, as Shaming kids online and publicly let’s give an example of telling embarrassing or revealing stories in an attempt to manipulate the child’s attitude or behavior; and also taking what should be a private conversation about behavior and consequences, in order to make it public by sharing it with friends, family or the world at large, you see guys, that’s terrible right?
Shaming kids is the biggest crime ever, we can find in a great deal of situations, parents who dehumanize, maltreat, and also neglect their children, they really make them suffer and feel hurt. We all know that babies or teenagers need protection, love, kindness, tenderness, and I pass… So why are you doing this? What kind of parents are You? I think that, there’s one meaning of good parents in this whole earth, yes, just one unique definition, we all agree that the real parents sacrifice and do what they can do for their kids; Parents are a precious diamond given by our God; Real parents are those who care about their childs’s happiness, being in sickness as well as health, for richer or for poorer… But unfortunately some of them break this ethical value.
To sum up everything, I just want to say, that it is never late to fix a bad action, so we, as teenagers, we can give some piece of parenting advice, we have to explain and clarify to an inferior parents, that a child feeling shame can lead to a range of unhealthy behaviour including anger issues, and also we should show them the right way, they really must keep in mind that social media can take public shaming to the next level. Thus, if we apply that, I mean if we turn the words into real actions, we are going to get a good and positive results, for kids, for parents, and for the society at all, because when parents become close to their kids, then we’re going to completely have a cohesive and a perfect family ever.
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